Week Two

 Welcome back! This week's topic is family theories and dynamics and how it can affect members of your family. To start off I'll explain a little bit about what I'll be talking about. In a family each member is their own person yet they can be very similar in some ways. For example if someone in a family has bad behaviour, it will affect other members of the family. The theory I want to focus on today is exchange theory. Growing up my parents were very different people. My mom was someone who was friends with everyone, she was always kind and loving. She loved things such as, her family, shopping, makeup, shoes, and more. Growing up with my mom made be become like her in so many ways. We share the same likes and dislikes. We are quite similar. And because I grew up with her always being so friendly, I try everyday to be just like her. My dad is quiet and I think he prefers to keep to himself. He always wants to do what's best for someone else, rather than himself. He will help anyone in need without even being asked. I hope I can be as selfless as my dad one day. Although my dad and I have different personalities we still alike in so many ways. My parents were not super strict growing up, they put rules in place to keep us safe but it was always given with love and respect. I think because my parents weren't so strict, is why I have such a good relationship with them. We always communicated our feelings and knew what the other was thinking. In families when there is poor dynamics, children are more likely to act out and not listen. This is why you should not be controlling, you should let your family members make their own choices, with guided help, of course, to choose the right. I want to take the best qualities from my parents and apply them into my life. Eventually when I have children, I want them to take the best qualities of me and my husband. I also hope my children will have qualities of their grandparents. When children are taught to act a certain way and you get a positive reaction, your child is most likely going to continue to act in that way. We need to be kind and gentle with our children if we want them to learn in the best way. A good family dynamic is one where there is love and support in the home. Growing up, I was supported in everything I did whether it was sports, piano lessons, a new hobbie, or deciding I didn't want to do something anymore. My parents taught me that I would be loved no matter what. Because of this I have such a great relationship with parents. My siblings and I got along, we were taught to love one another. Since I was the oldest I took upon a leader role and it has helped me in my life today to be a strong leader in all the things I do.  Because of the knowledge I have of eternal families, my family is the most important thing to me. I'm so grateful I get to be with my family forever. I'm also so grateful for my husbands family and the love and support they give to me and him. I just hope one day I will be able to be as good of a parent as the parent figures in my life.