Marriage

     

    Adapting to change in marriage can be difficult. The first month of marriage may bring new surprises. For me the biggest thing was having to share a bed. I always would sleep in the middle of the bed, with some kind of noise going on, either a fan, my phone white noises, or having a window open. My husband was not the biggest fan of my white noises but he was kind enough to put up with it. He is a snuggler at night and I would rather be left alone and not touched all night. Some nights I would cuddle with him until I could feel he was asleep, then i'd turn him over so I could sleep by myself. Another change was having to share space. I always had my own room growing up, so now having to share; it was not an easy task. My room when I lived alone was either super clean, or super messy. I had to learn to continuously pick up my clothes off the floor after I had changed 10 times before leaving the house. Luckily I married someone who is patient enough to put up with me and how much I feel I need to change before leaving the house. 

    When people get married and move in together they often don't know what to expect. Having super high or super low expectations is not a great idea. Instead, while dating, you should discuss expectations and make sure each person's needs are going to be met. If you hold your partner to high expectations, you yourself should already be there. It can be hard at times, you just need to communicate and work as a team. 

People are starting to have children at a older age, the more time goes on. Having children older can have many disadvantages as well as advantages. Having them at a young age you may be missing out on a lot of stuff in the world. You may feel like you are being weighed down with all these responsibilities at such a young age. Having children at a much older age can result in not getting pregnant at all. The older you get, the harder it is to have a baby. You may miss your chance if you wait too long. Having them older means you will be much much older as a grandparent or even great grandparent, if you even make it that long. When you get married, if you know you want kids, don't wait so long to have them. You want to be able to do stuff with them and you can't if you are old. Make having kids one of the most important things in your life. You won't regret it.